Oct 3, 2025 | Articles, Blog
The Key Components of a Synastry Chart
Considering astrology is “the original science or system of knowledge devised by humans; the basis for the first cosmologies through which the ancients comprehended the structure and movement of the universe” and “the science of fate or destiny, used for understanding events on earth” (David Frawley), it’s no surprise that this vast field reveals the relationship between two elements of the universe. Today, we’ll focus on the cosmic connection between two people through synastry charts.
What Is a Synastry Chart?
A synastry chart is essentially a “map” of how two people are connected. It overlays two individual birth charts to reveal the harmonies, tensions, and similarities in their dynamics. The result is a shared chart that reflects the astrological relationship between Person A and Person B.
While commonly used for romantic compatibility, synastry charts can also explore relationships between friends, family, coworkers, or business partners. They go far beyond simple sun-sign comparisons, offering a nuanced perspective on the qualities, temperaments, desires, and wounds of each person.
These charts highlight:
– Middle grounds in communication: What love languages will be heard.
– Strengths: Where harmony flows naturally.
– Challenges: Areas where misunderstandings might arise.
While synastry charts offer profound insight, it’s essential to remember that no “perfect” synastry chart exists. Every relationship requires conscious effort, regardless of compatibility.
Exploring the Basics
Analyzing a synastry chart involves combining multiple layers of information: planets, signs, houses, and aspects. Let’s break it down.
The Planets
Each planet governs a specific area of life:
– Moon: Emotional inner world.
– Mercury: Communication style.
– Venus: Core values and relationships.
The Signs
The zodiac sign each planet occupies reflects *how* its energy is expressed. For example, Mercury in Leo suggests a highly expressive and self-oriented communicator.
The Houses
Houses describe *where* planetary energy manifests. For example, Mercury in Leo in the 8th House (subconscious) may indicate bold communication expressed through mysterious, intuitive ways.
Aspects
Aspects refer to the angles planets make with one another, defining the nature of their connection. Key aspects include:
– Harmonious: Trine, Sextile, and Conjunction.
– Challenging: Square and Opposition.
Interpretation Case Study: Jay-Z and Beyoncé
Now, let’s apply this with a synastry chart example: Jay-Z and Beyoncé. Jay-Z’s placements are the inner ring, while Beyoncé’s are the outer ring.
Sun (Sagittarius, 3rd House) square Sun (Virgo, 12th House)
The Sun reflects one’s core essence. Jay-Z’s fiery, mentally-focused Sagittarius (3rd House) may clash with Beyoncé’s cautious and dreamy Virgo (12th House). While this tension could create challenges, it also fosters growth as they learn from each other’s unique perspectives.
Mars (Aquarius) trine Venus (Libra)
This harmonious connection between Jay-Z’s Mars (action) and Beyoncé’s Venus (values) highlights shared diplomatic, objective, and flexible personality traits, making their relationship flow effortlessly.
Mars (5th House) and Mars (Leo)
Both share a strong Leo signature, emphasizing creativity, showmanship, and self-expression – qualities we’ve seen in their careers.
Saturn (Taurus) square Mars (Leo)
This challenging aspect reflects tension between Jay-Z’s Saturn in Taurus (themes of tradition and finance) and Beyoncé’s Mars in Leo (bold self-expression). Jay-Z’s conditioning around wealth and stability may create friction with Beyoncé’s natural creative spontaneity.
Synastry 101 Takeaway
Astrology provides a map, but how we interpret and act on it is up to us. Synastry charts invite curiosity, offering infinite ways to explore the connections between two individuals. As always, keep an open mind and heart when delving into these cosmic dynamics.
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Oct 3, 2025 | Articles, Blog
Understanding Planetary Aspects in One’s Chart
Planetary aspects are essential for understanding the dynamic relationships between planets. They represent the ways in which planets communicate, relate, connect, and exchange information with each other. Go to the “Chart” section of the KTZ App to read about some of your core planetary aspects.
Within one’s birth chart, aspects give insight into how the planets – along with the signs and houses they occupy – intermingle. They also highlight potential challenges between the energies that make up our cosmic fabric, as well as the areas where blessings flow more freely within and around us.
Aspects also reflect our cyclical nature, as well as the dynamics of our relationships. They’re at the core of astrological weather, helping track the patterns that affect our charts.
As Dossé-Via states in *Signs & Skymates*:
> “The planets are characters in a play (…) and there are comedies, romances, and dramas that play out between them. (What this play will be) depends on the aspects the planets make with one another.”
There are many aspects in astrology, but for now, we will focus on the five major planetary aspects: **trine, sextile, conjunction, opposition, and square.**
Harmonious vs. Challenging Aspects
Some aspects are considered **harmonious** (*trine, sextile, and conjunction*) because they rarely bring challenges; instead, they support and uplift the relationships between the areas they occupy in our lives.
Other aspects are considered **challenging** (*square and opposition*) because they tend to create constant tensions between the areas they occupy in our chart. By creating friction and issues that need to be addressed, these aspects become channels for growth, learning, and evolution in our lives.
The Five Major Planetary Aspects
Trine
Planets 120° apart, or within an orb of 8° for luminaries and 6° for other planets, dividing the zodiac by three.
This is the most harmonious aspect. To intuitively feel it, think about areas in your life where energies blend and flow easily. Where do you experience inner harmony and equilibrium? Trines often bring success with little resistance, making things feel like they fall into place seamlessly.
However, those with many trines in their chart may risk becoming too complacent, as things come easily. They might not fully take advantage of these placements. Ask yourself: where do you feel you might be a bit lazy, yet still get good outcomes? Effort here could maximize your benefits.
Sextile
Planets 60° apart, or within an orb of 4° for luminaries and 3° for other planets, dividing the zodiac by six.
This aspect creates harmonious and cooperative energy, bringing ease and stability. Think of a sextile as two friends who consistently support and encourage each other, or a cosmic cheerleader.
While sextiles provide opportunities, they require effort and action to fully access their benefits. Unlike trines (which connect planets in the same element), sextiles connect planets in different elements, creating extra stimulus and results.
Conjunction
Planets in the same degree of the same sign, or within an orb of 10° for luminaries and 8° for other planets.
This is the strongest aspect, merging planetary energies into a unified force and intensifying their influence. Think of a conjunction as two friends becoming a powerful team working toward a common goal.
While conjunctions are generally harmonious, their nature depends on the planets involved. For example, a conjunction of benefic planets like Venus and Jupiter is typically favorable, while one involving Mars and Saturn may bring intense, demanding energy.
Square
Planets 90° apart, or within an orb of 8° for luminaries and 6° for other planets, dividing the zodiac by four.
This is the most challenging and energizing aspect. In a square, the planets are in the greatest tension with each other, creating obstacles between areas of life. They reveal significant challenges your soul has chosen to embody before entering the physical plane.
While considered disharmonious, squares provide the most impetus to break through evolutionary blocks and lessons. Think of this aspect as a tough coach pushing you beyond your comfort zone, helping you build resilience and fortitude.
Opposition
Planets 180° apart, or within an orb of 10° for luminaries and 8° for other planets, dividing the zodiac by two.
An opposition creates dynamic tension, pulling you in opposite directions between areas of your life. Think of it as a cosmic mirror reflecting contrasting energies. This aspect often manifests in relationships, highlighting issues we project onto others rather than owning ourselves.
The key to working with oppositions is **integration** – balancing opposing energies and perspectives. While challenging, oppositions expand your awareness and stretch you to bring harmony to seemingly contradictory elements.
Applying These Concepts
Before looking into your chart, try an intuitive exercise:
– Think about areas where things come naturally or where you feel “lucky.”
– Reflect on where you experience constant tension or challenges that lead to growth.
– Identify areas where you feel pulled in opposite directions, or where you project certain dynamics onto others.
Once you’ve reflected, check out your free KTZ birth chart in the app and start exploring. For example:
If you have Mars in the 11th house trine Neptune in the 3rd house, you could interpret this as:
“I have a natural ability to channel my actions (Mars) through intuitive insights (Neptune) within my communities (11th house), making collaborative efforts flow effortlessly (trine).”
Play with this for all the major aspects in your chart. Use planetary keywords, add the energy of the signs and houses, and layer these elements to make nuanced interpretations.
The Depth of Planetary Aspects
Planetary aspects are the most creative and intuitive part of chart analysis because they help you weave together the energy of planets, signs, and houses. Once you’ve understood these elements, the possibilities for exploration are infinite.
Feeling inspired to learn more about your astrological layers? Explore the “Chart” section of the KTZ App to dive deeper into the planetary aspects present in your chart. Enjoy the journey!
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Oct 3, 2025 | Articles, Blog
> Astrology is a Language.
> If you understand this language, The Sky Speaks to You.
> — DANE RUDHYAR
While following one’s natural arc of learning is always a fun time… you might’ve wondered if you could ever receive just a *bit* more information regarding your ambitions, career path and/or dream job.
Sure, there’ll always be a degree of trial and error involved in figuring out what ignites that inner spark; and makes starting work everyday a real pleasure – but astrology can certainly speed up the process.
We’d all love to create jobs that we love, lives that we don’t have to take holidays from, that fill us with contentment, passion and purpose.
Our suggested step one: look at your birth chart!
Your Birth Chart
You can consider your birth chart as your blueprint and seed potential. Within it, we can see a lot – from relationship preferences, biggest wounds, karmic patterns, lucky travel spots, to your soul’s subconscious desires. But today, we’re looking at finding your **dream job.**
Astrology reflects nature, and nature is multifaceted.
This means any astrological exploration will explore and combine multiple layers (astrological aspects and placements), to weave a unique tapestry and expression. In this case, **piecing parts together will reveal a broad (but nuanced) signature** of what your **dream job** would **feel like**.
We can look at your Mars placement; the way you move forward in the world, take action, and initiate willpower.
Someone who has a **Mars** in Aries will prefer a job that involves spontaneity, physicality and pace. They’re not going to enjoy sitting in a cubicle working on repetitive tasks. Yet, that exact situation might be perfect for someone with Mars placed in Virgo, who will be all about systems, refinement and cultivating that sweet rhythm where everything falls into perfect order.
Another key placement to factor in would be your **Venus** placement. Venus, planet of love and beauty, also represents our personal values. That is, your belief systems, or core morals.
These naturally vary from person to person, so when it comes to finding your dream job it’ll always be worth considering what those values are to you.
A Venus in Cancer being is likely to value home, family time and a feeling of safety. For this reason, a Wall St career probably wouldn’t bode too well for them.
But that same role might work perfectly for a Venus in Capricorn being, who’ll value more patriarchal spheres (think politics), pragmatism, and the pursuit of societal success (for example, a high degree of financial wealth).
We could next look to **Pluto**, to reveal the soul’s deepest desires, because lining up with those will always accelerate one’s path. Then there’s the **Sun**, a placement which essentially reflects the center of experience you’re operating from. Aligning this unique core flavor with any job is vital for it to become your dream job.
The Midheaven
But perhaps the spot most important to explore when considering your dream job is the ***Midheaven*** (or Medium Coeli), which reflects the southernmost high point above the horizon, at your time of birth. Astrologically it reflects the 10th House, which is your sector of – you guessed it – **career**. Consider the Midheaven as your cosmic job description.
*So! After finding your Midheaven [here](https://knowthezodiac.com/birth-chart/)*, read your relevant paragraph below.*
*Look for the MC symbol!*
Aries Midheaven
An Aries midheaven’s dream job is one that keeps them on their toes, stimulated and inspired. They won’t have much patience for bureaucracy, and will thrive best when given their own (high) degree of freedom and independence. This midheaven placement enjoys seeing things get done. They’ll benefit most from work that feels passionate, spontaneous and pulsing with life.
*Job ideas: firefighter, entrepreneur, ER worker, gym teacher, farmer, adventure guide*
Taurus Midheaven
A Taurus midheaven will thrive with space and self-sufficiency. While they might enjoy being part of a team, they’ll want autonomy when it comes to getting certain elements of work done. This is because they’ll have their own rhythm which, when accessed, will bring their work the layers of beauty and meditative presence that motivates them to keep going. Highly reliable and consistent workers, they may also feel drawn to working practically with their hands, animals, the body and/or the earth.
Job ideas: ceramicist, physiotherapist, fashion designer, park ranger, chef, vet, landscaper, yoga teacher
Gemini Midheaven
The dream job of a Gemini midheaven… probably isn’t just one job. You’ll likely see them hopping through different industries as these beings prefer working with a multitude of different hats, ideas, people and contexts. Keeping work fresh and new is a big one here, as these souls want to keep learning. They’ll be particularly talented at juggling multiple tasks and concepts – for example, working with different languages. Speaking of languages, they’ll have a knack for – or interest in – articulation, communication and expression.
*Job ideas: linguist, writer, journalist, videographer, entrepreneur, teacher, fashion designer*
Cancer Midheaven
A Cancer midheaven will be drawn to jobs and a career path that honors sensitivity, emotional depth, and empathic qualities. This could mean a super wonderful workplace where staff are treated like family – a Cancer midheaven may prioritize that to the point of not really minding what work they’re doing. Or, it could go another way where they’re drawn to direct roles which reflect the above (such as the medical field). Nurturance and acceptance are big ones for a dream job here.
Job ideas: child care worker, HR roles, healer, counselor, bed and breakfast manager, doctor
Leo Midheaven
A Leo midheaven is going to love seeing their creative expression soar, and making an impression on the world. Positive recognition is going to be a big one for this placement – they’re not going to enjoy creating into a void. Creative roles will be best, as well as ones where they can share and bounce off the energy of others. Unless they feel highly valued, a team member role won’t feel completely satisfying to a Leo midheaven – who will also thrive in positions of leadership.
Job ideas: Entrepreneur, activist, actor/actress, reporter, author, manager, lawyer
Virgo Midheaven
A Virgo midheaven will be happiest in roles that carry a high degree of practicality, focus, service and refinement. Order is necessary for this midheaven placement to thrive, and they’ll work best in physical environments where they feel completely comfortable. Planning and organization are big ones here too, as well as structured work. While some thrive on last minute deadlines, a Virgo midheaven will not. Service is a huge factor here; their dream job will be a practical offering that somehow betters the world and those around them.
*Job ideas: Acupuncturist, NFP roles, nurse/doctor, interior designer, architect, landscaper*
**Libra Midheaven**
A Midheaven in Libra being is going to thrive in a role surrounded by others. Their dream job will be one where they are able to take in a variety of different personality types, ideas and belief systems. Excellent listeners, their work process will resemble something of a sponge. After absorbing inspiration from those around them, they can establish a sense of empowerment in their own creative ideas. These beings will do best when they’re able to bounce ideas around collaboratively, particularly jobs which carry freedom and a certain flavor of fun.
Job ideas: PR roles, counselor teacher, healer, editor, retail manager, CEO, stylist, influencer
Sagittarius Midheaven
A Sagittarius Midheaven is going to flourish being on the road, in jobs that allow travel or some flavor of movement. Not unlike an Aries midheaven, these beings will love work that interests them, and absolutely despise anything that bores them. For this reason, it’s very important that a Sag midheaven listens to their intuition and chooses a career that works best for them. Beings with this placement will thrive in roles that bring them a personal sense of meaning, and purpose.
Job ideas: Humanitarian, investigative journalist, digital nomad, travel specialist, personal trainer, academic
Scorpio Midheaven
This placement means thriving in jobs which examine truths deeper than surface level. Mundane work will be a nightmare for Scorpio Midheavens, who will much prefer facing the depths of human experience. Think; birth, death and other moments where one meets the existence head on. Even if a Scorpio Midheaven being does have a job in a less intense field, they will still bring (and thrive on) a natural depth. These beings have a knack for seeing hidden motives, dynamics and agendas – making them perfect for roles of negotiation.
Job ideas: Midwife or birth doula, death doula, psychologist, healer, social worker, counselor, artist, writer, musician
Capricorn Midheaven
A Capricorn midheaven will be highly ambitious, in a more traditional sense. These beings will flourish in career paths where they can see direct rewards for their efforts (for example promotions and moving up the ranks of a company). They’ll want to feel consistently challenged to expand beyond what they’ve done before, and to grow out of their comfort zone. They’ll also likely enjoy loyalty in a career sense, so sticking with the same company or friends they’ve made along the way will also be a big part of their dream job.
Job ideas: Lawyer, CEO, athlete, academic, business owner, doctor/nurse, teacher, builder
Aquarius Midheaven
Beings with this placement will thrive in roles which break conventions and revolutionize. On an exaggerated level, think Elon Musk vibes. This could manifest in many ways though, from a school teacher who improves test systems, to a DJ producing fresh sounds. Either way, the dream job for an Aquarius Midheaven will involve using their talents, observations and unique vantage point to bring something new to the world.
Job ideas: role in IT or computer sciences, activist, politician, film maker, entrepreneur, engineer, scientist, inventor, graphic designer, audio technician
Pisces Midheaven
This being will thrive in highly creative roles, which can of course manifest across many different industries. Ideally, they’ll land a job where expression is unbound (think art, music and film), because this is where they will be happiest. Pisces Midheavens also flourish when a degree of natural flow is present within their work. For example, an entrepreneur who has the space, time and resources to follow their creative impulses – without explanation, or answering to others.
Job ideas: astrologer, artist, landscape architect, fashion designer, writer, yoga teacher, monk, videographer
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Oct 3, 2025 | Articles, Blog
“Divine timing, divine mates, divine love – there are so many types of connections to uncover, all of which are influenced by our charts.”
>
> — DOSSÉ-VIA, SIGNS & SKYMATES
To say the birth chart contains a lot of wisdom, would be an understatement. When we look to our charts for cosmic info, we can consider them highly specific guide maps (rather than instruction manuals!). Your birth chart is as unique to you, as your fingerprint.
From clothing preferences, phobias, and ideal hobbies – it really is incredible how many nuances are revealed within the natal chart; each a mirror of our infinitely multi-layered personalities.
*Today, we’re specifically looking at how your birth chart can indicate your ideal and true **friends**.*
Layers
When looking at a birth chart, we have to consider multiple streams of information. Think: placements by house and sign, as well as how they sit in relation to each other (for example trines, squares and so on… which we’ll cover another time.)
We then combine our observations for a full picture; in this case, revealing what your true friendships may feel like.
So, where to start?
I would suggest beginning with your natal Moon sign. In each of our charts, The Moon (amongst other things) reflects the lens through which we experience our emotions and empathic sensitivities.
La luna also reflects our comfort zones, and personal value systems. Importantly, she reveals our inner relationship to ourselves – and how we can honor our own sensitivities. Naturally, sharing a Moon placement (by sign or house) can reflect a deepened mutual understanding between two beings.
You know those friends that just get you? And that you never have to explain yourself to? You might just share a moon sign.
My second pick for a true friend indicator would be shared (or complimentary) Lunar Nodes.
The natal Lunar Nodes reflect your unique journey of personal evolution. The South Node suggests overdeveloped traits, while the North Node reveals what you came here to learn, in order to grow.
I usually describe the North Node as that tingly “good-nervous” feeling you get, before making a big decision. It’s those new and unfamiliar paths that occasionally light up in our lives, inviting us to grow beyond who we already are. Even though it may take a conscious effort to lean into our North Node path, it still feels (at least subtly) magnetic.
So what does this have to do with true friends? Well, to share a soul evolutionary intention is kind of a big deal. Some of the best friendships I’ve had are those with whom I’ve shared Lunar Nodes. You’ll be able to effortlessly grow, support and expand in a uniquely shared journey together; without even realizing that you are.
Venus
I can’t stress the importance of considering multiple factors for finding your true friends, but if I had to choose one…the most would be Venus. The planet of relationships, Venus also represents our personal values, belief systems and core ethics.
When it comes to finding your true friends, naturally, it’s worth having all of the above complimentary or aligned. Venus is also the ruler of **giving** and **receiving**. This planet’s placement can reflect your love language so to speak – so connecting with those who align here will be a recipe for true friendships.
The good news is, you can find your Venus placement [here](https://knowthezodiac.com/birth-chart/)*, and read on for your cosmic true friend description.
*(Look for the ♀ symbol!)*
Venus in Aries
Aries is the first sign of the zodiac, and beings with Venus here are accordingly going to be drawn to friends who ignite, inspire, motivate and light them up. Running, climbing, starting businesses, you name it – Venus in Aries’ true friends will be ones that can keep up.
True friend love language: acts of service, a willingness to try new things, leaps of faith, mutual self-empowerment
Venus in Taurus
Taurus is one of Venus’ rulers, and beings with Venus here will want a high degree of autonomy and sovereignty in their true friendships. Think: friends who won’t judge or push, but rather provide a support system in the ethos of “you do you.”
True friend love language: gift giving, netflix and chill days, slowness and nature appreciation, massages, being cooked for
Venus in Gemini
Souls with this placement are likely to be social butterflies, at least on a few levels. They’re looking to connect with others who are just as endlessly fascinated with the world and its many components. Boring or apathetic vibes just won’t cut it.
True friend love language: internet deep diving together, getting lost in tangents, studying together, thought experiments and exploring hypotheticals
Venus in Cancer
These tend to be highly sensitive souls, which means their true friendships will involve Netflix and chill, sharing feelings (often), cuddles and coziness. As one of the most maternal signs of the zodiac, their true friends will be the ones who let Venus-Cancer spoil them.
True friend love language: quality time (lots of it), healing together, expressing feels, acceptance, comfortable crying, rituals and all things witchy
Venus in Leo
The ideal friends for Venus in Leo will be those who can act as mutual cheerleaders. They’ll be doing incredible things themselves, and cheering Venus-Leo on, as they do the same. Passion and humor are key here!
True friend love language: romantic comedy marathons, nights of lavish meals and dancing, pep talks, surprises, verbal expressions of love (frequent)
Venus in Virgo
These special beings are after connections that get them. They might seem to have a calm and focused demeanor, but will have a clever sense of humor and fun that they’re just waiting to share. Emotional messiness is not the vibe for Venus-Virgo, whose true friends will be able to consistently show up for them.
True friend love language: planning day trips, cooking together, teaching or being taught something, surprise acts of service
Venus in Libra
Venus’ second sign is indeed, the airy and social butterfly: Libra. Beings with this placement are looking for friends who keep it light, keep it moving and things fun! Don’t get started on dense or emotionally weighted topics, these ones just want to see how far they can soar with good vibes and open curiosity.
True friend love language: traveling together, exploring different cuisines and cultures, exercising together non competitively, being asked about their day
Venus in Sagittarius
With Venus here, these souls are looking for friends who catalyze movement and expansion. Think: that friend who calls and tells you to pack your bags, it’s time to go on an adventure. And adventures they will have! These souls are in it for belly laughs and sharing the sunsets that take your breath away.
True friend love language: impromptu trips, hiking and rock climbing, being asked for their opinion, mutual nature appreciation
Venus in Scorpio
Souls with this placement are here for true friends who are on the same page. Those who can share, see or at least appreciate their unique depths, perspectives and approach to life. Ideally, they won’t have to be explaining themselves. Lastly, they’ll have a wicked sense of humor – a solid prerequisite for any best friends.
True friend love language: watching true crime shows, humor, surprise gifts, intimate touch, telepathy
Venus in Capricorn
Venus in Capricorn values loyalty over almost everything. They want ride-or-dies, and the kind of friends who will undoubtedly pick up a phone call at 3am. Transparency, stability and verbal appreciation are the big ones here!
True friend love language: hanging out in pajamas together, receiving advice, discussing career options, training for a marathon together
Venus in Aquarius
Someone with Venus here is after friendship which reflects their own eccentricities, uniqueness and creativity. Think: two multidisciplinary artists, taking on the world in their own unique ways. True friendship here will mean being challenged, but in all the best ways.
True friend love language: brainstorming creative projects, fashion appreciation, a travel buddy
Venus in Pisces
These dreamers are looking for true friends who share their unique way of feeling the world around them. Nothing is black-and-white with Venus in Pisces, and their ideal friendships will be accordingly rainbow. They’re not looking for conventional friendships, but rather the ones that ebb and flow perfectly according to the river of where life leads them.
True friend love language: star gazing, long hugs, watching fantasy shows, sharing feelings and poetry, taking photos
Want to map your friendship blueprint—Moon bonds, Node links, and Venus vibes? Book a 1:1 KTZ Astro Consultation and get clear, practical guidance on calling in your true friends.
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Oct 3, 2025 | Articles, Blog
Maybe it’s because I’m too much of a Libra, but when I find myself holding others to certain standards, I try to stop and think if and how I’m holding myself to those same standards, both within my relationship to myself and within my relationship to others.
When learning about love and dating through your birth chart you can get insights on the kind of people you attract into your life and the dynamics that play out, and ultimately you’re learning about yourself. Because relationships can transform or end, but you will always have you. We all want love, we all want to be chosen, but are you brave enough to radically love, accept and choose yourself?
As we go into the key components of the chart that rule certain aspects of dating life, we’re actually going into how we can choose to be in the practice of love. The practice of love has so much to do with self-understanding, with being patient and kind to ourselves, with recognizing how challenging this can be at times, and holding space for that.
Similar to when we exercise to make our body more flexible, doing the splits takes time, consistency, awareness, deep breaths and spaciousness, and so does self-love and devotion, it can’t happen all at once. The deeper we can go into this, the deeper we can go into love, devotion and intimacy with others.
Don’t believe when they say that one has to be fully cured or that one has to fully love and accept oneself in order to be in relationship. This makes no sense, this is a very capitalist way of thinking, of focusing on the objective instead of the lived experience.
We’re here to live life, to learn, to grow, to love, no person is perfect, no person is in full acceptance of their self. We really are in this together, and it is in relationship, through mirroring ourselves and merging our energies that we can see into ourself more deeply and transform.
The other day I was in bed hugging my pillow with a deep desire to feel warmth emanating from this embrace, and it came to me that even if I accomplish all of my professional goals, and certain life milestones like having the house and the commodities that can come from earning a dignified living, I would still feel this need to hold and held, I would still be in the same place emotionally.
That’s when I realized that professional goals and life plans have to be balanced out with emotional goals. Because you can even get married and have kids and not be sure about what you want and need in order to feel emotional security within your home, your relationship and the family you’re creating. After a couple of weeks of processing this alone and with friends, I adopted a kitty, and now I also have a clearer sense of the conversations, the boundaries and the intentions I want to have when going into a relationship.
Now, let’s get into the components of the birth chart that are key when taking a look into our love life. There’s Venus, the planet that rules love and beauty; Mars, the planet that rules sex and desire; the 7th house, the area of the chart where we open ourselves up to another and create one-on-one connections and commitments; and the 5th house, the area of our chart that has to do with romance, love affairs and our passions.
Venus
Venus speaks to our capacity to give and receive love, our values, our approach to partnership, and our desire to find balance and harmony within our connections. It holds our desire to thrive in a relationship and our fears of failing in it. It speaks to our concerns and the stories that inhabit us when it comes to intimacy, connection and separation. Venus also holds our desires to be seen, heard, held and cherished. As Venus represents our values, it speaks to what we prioritize in relationships.
Venus’ sign, the house it’s in and its aspects to other planets can tell us so much about our attraction to others and the qualities we find appealing in a partner. It can help us understand how we foster emotional connection and intimacy, how we nurture our loved ones, our romantic gestures and love languages, how we communicate and express love and affection, and what is most meaningful for us when forming bonds.
Understanding your Venus placements and that of your partner can shed light on each other’s needs, values, desires and expectations. It can also tell you about the magnetism and chemistry that exists between the two. Looking into how both of your Venus’ placements connect can help you navigate potential conflicts, understand what each other needs in order to feel emotionally safe, and find ways to align values in order to create a mutually supportive and fulfilling partnership.
Mars
Mars, the planet of action and desire, can help us understand how we navigate dating life as it speaks to the kind of partners we’re attracted to and the ones who are attracted to us. Mars informs us about our sex drive, what we like and what turns us on.
Mars’ sign, the house it’s in and its aspects to other planets can tell us about our assertiveness in romantic connections, how we pursue our desires and if we take the lead in relationships or wait for the other person to do so. It informs us about our initiative or lack thereof, our impulses, how we move forward, how we’d like to act if there was nothing holding us back, and what we’re too afraid to do.
Understanding the Mars energy of both skymates can inform your physical compatibility, and help create a richer sexual connection and deeper intimacy.
As Mars is also about competition, it can show us how we face conflict and arguments, our need to win vs our need to come to a resolution, our need to stand up for ourselves vs our need to stand up for the relationships.
5th house
The fifth house is the house of pleasure, fun, romance and fantasy. It speaks to how we like to be loved, feel cared for and seen. It represents that aspect of a connection that’s exciting, light, and playful. So, it speaks more about our dating life than about the moment we decide to form a relationship, that territory belongs to the seventh house.
The fifth house talks about how we are as lovers and focuses more on the initial stage of excitement —the sparks and butterflies— than about how we are as partners. Although when in partnership, it does speak to the aspect of sex, passion and novelty within the relationship. This is where we can release energies that may build up in other areas of our love life.
The sign that the fifth house is in, its ruler and the planets that may fall within it can tell us about our charm, our flirt game, if we’re out there when it comes to connecting with others, or if we’re more shy and reserved. It can also tell us about our love affairs, the people we’re attracted to, the ones that light our fire, the ones we laugh and have fun with, the ones that make us feel free, alive and sexy.
The things we’re compatible with in this area of our life, may clash with the things we’re compatible with or are looking for in more committed and long-term relationships. This is why we can have very fun and passionate affairs, but with people that we know will never lead to something more serious.
7th house
The 7th house has to do with any form of union, association, alliance or partnership that two or more skymates decide to form together. This is the house where we come together with another in marriage, business, or platonic friendship. It speaks to how we want to be mirrored and by whom. It’s about one-on-one connections and where serious relationships are experienced in the chart.
The seventh house deals more with the day-to-day matters that are shared, like how we relate and get along, the roles that are played, and plans for the future. This house is about finding balance, and learning to be good partners and friends.
The sign that the seventh house is in, its ruler and the planets that may fall within it speak to what you look for long-term, what you look for in the person you wish to share your life with. It’s not so much about passion, but a deeper, calmer, more mirroring and stable kind of love. It describes the energy that your partner must bring to the relationship in order to form a successful and stable long-term partnership with you. Looking at your seventh house can help you understand which traits a person must hold in order to complement you.
These are only the main components that speak to our love life, there are other placements within the chart that can complement the overall view of what we need in order to come together with someone and to feel safe and loved.
The Moon is our emotional world; it’s what offers us emotional security, and it speaks to the kind of home and family we want to have. Saturn speaks to what we’re committed to and how we tend to go about our commitments. The North Node is our life direction. The 8th house is where we merge with another, where love and passion come together.
Our birth charts can bring so much insight into our love life, what we’ve gone through and how we wish to move forward, but I want to remind you that nothing in the birth chart is ever an excuse to stay in a toxic, violent or dangerous relationship. It can give us clues to things like why we stayed there so long or why we weren’t able to see the first signs. But never let anyone use it as an excuse to make you stay or to make you think that it is your fault that this happened to you. What a birth chart can do is point to the strengths that can help you break free from these types of bonds and come deeper into your power and your love.
I want to leave you with this article [There Are More than 5 Love Languages](https://psiloveyou.xyz/there-are-more-than-5-love-languages-a13deb64f52e). The list of five has always seemed so limited to me, I loved coming into contact with people that are arguing that our expression of love is so much more than that.
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